Maybe you've done therapy, breathwork, or some kind of inner work, and something real opened, then faded. Or maybe you've never had the space to go there at all. Either way, there's a part of you that's still holding on, even after all the understanding.
This time, it doesn't fade. This time, we have enough time.
You've been talking about it for years. The insight is there. But something hasn't moved. You're doing the work in your head, and your body hasn't gotten the message yet.
You've been in breathwork, done the inner work, maybe gone on a journey. Something cracked open. You touched it, and then it closed again before you could do anything with it.
You've gotten about as far as you can on your own, and you know it. In a circle of men doing the same work at the same time, you get seen, and you get pushed further than you'd ever go alone.
This is not for you if you're only looking for a getaway. This is deep work. It asks something of you, and gives back far more.
Answer honestly. We'll tell you if this is the right fit, right now.
Everything you answered points to a man who has done the work, knows there's more underneath it, and is ready to go all the way through. That's who this retreat was built for.
Yes, I'm Ready Not sure yet? Book a free discovery callYou're standing at the edge of something, and the fact that you took this quiz honestly says more than your score does. Men who answer the way you did often get the most out of it. The hesitation you feel? That's not a no. That's the threshold. Apply, and we'll talk it through together before anything is final.
Let's Talk It ThroughThis retreat asks you to actually go inward. If that's not where you are right now, that's okay. When the time comes, you'll know.
I was never able to get in touch with myself in this way.
Lipa is insightful and caring. The time he takes to explain the breathwork session is invaluable.
Was really insightful and the impact was felt for weeks afterwards. The energy and sensitivity that I experienced is still with me every day. Thank you!!!
I did breathwork with Lipa and it was a great experience. It felt like an emotional massage and release, plus a deeper understanding of myself and lasting effects. Totally recommend!!
Lipa puts so much care into every part of the experience. It's not just about the breathwork, it's everything before and after that makes it so meaningful. The sessions are deep, and he creates a space where you feel safe, supported, and able to fully let go. His attention to detail and the way he holds space make the whole experience truly special.
Going in, I was pretty skeptical about breathwork. But Lipa's circle shifted that for me completely. It brought me clarity, peace, mindfulness, and real tranquility. I felt connected to my body in a way I hadn't in a long time, like I was finally back in myself. There was such an ease to it, and I could genuinely feel a heaviness lift off of me.
Doing breathwork with Lipa was a very transformative and emotional experience. From the initial phone call to the intake process, he was very attentive, made me feel heard, and understood my intention going in. His follow up was also very appreciated. Lipa takes the time to listen, really understand where his clients come from, and even makes someone outside the heimish community feel comfortable. I highly recommend him, whether you're experienced or a first timer, to trust Lipa as a breathwork facilitator.
You share only when you feel safe, and only if you want to. So much of this work happens without a word spoken out loud, in the breath, in the body, out on the land with the horses, at the fire. Wherever you're at when you walk in is where we start.
If you'd rather no one ever knows what you walked in carrying, the work still lands just as deep. What you carry stays yours, and whatever is said here stays here.
"If I am not for me, who will be for me?
And when I am for myself alone, what am I?
And if not now, then when?"
Avos 1:14
We move from safety into depth, and we don't leave until it's anchored.
Expressive, guided parts work, the first step is getting to know yourself, the parts you lead with and the ones you've kept out of sight.
Why it worksYou can't put down what you haven't met. Naming the parts you carry, without judgment, is what gives the rest of the work somewhere to land.
It starts with contacting the breath, learning how to actually feel it and let it move you. From there we work in layers: mini breathworks woven through the days to open, reset, or land what just happened, and two full journeys, an opening session and a deep dive. Your breath is the doorway.
Why it worksConscious breathing shifts your nervous system out of fight or flight, so what's been stuck finally has somewhere to go.
Experiential group processing. Not talking about it, going through it. This comes first, so what surfaces here is ready to be released.
Why it worksInsight lives in your head. This is where it moves into your body and your relationships, the places it actually has to live to matter.
A sound bath with gongs and singing bowls, lie back and let the vibration do the work.
Why it worksSound moves through the body in ways words can't reach. The vibration helps the body drop into a rest deep enough that the integration happens on its own.
A fire ceremony. What you've carried gets written down, said out loud in front of the other men, and handed to the flames. A physical act of release. It stays gone.
Why it worksWatching a burden actually burn does what talking about it never can. The fire turns release into something you see happen, in front of witnesses, with nothing left to take home.
The centerpiece of the final day. A guided journey through whatever you've been carrying and are ready to set down: a person, a chapter that never got an ending, or a grudge you've been holding against yourself.
Why it worksA grudge doesn't survive on what happened. It survives on what you've decided it means. Shift the meaning and the grip opens, without anyone else having to say a word or even know about it.
How the final day opens: outside, in the field, with the herd. A horse responds to the state your body is actually in, not to the version of yourself you've spent years practicing.
Why it worksHorses have no stake in your story, so what they hand back is hard to argue with. In constellation work they take the place of the people you've been circling, and the shape of it becomes something you can walk around instead of describe.
Guided meditation woven through the days, part of the work itself. Stillness to settle into, space to drop beneath the noise, to feel, and to be quiet.
Why it worksCalming the mind is how you find your way back to yourself. In the quiet, what's been running underneath finally surfaces, and you begin to reveal the self that's been there all along.
Prompted journaling woven through the arc. In the quiet after the deeper work, writing turns what just surfaced into words you can carry home.
Why it worksAn experience you can't put into words fades by the time you're home. Written down, it stays, and a fleeting shift becomes part of your story.
A live drum circle led on djembe. No skill required and nobody sits it out; the beat carries whoever picks up a drum.
Why it worksPlaying in time with other men is an agreement nobody has to negotiate out loud. Bodies fall in with a shared rhythm, and you feel the connection well before you'd think to name it.
The day is held between two moments of prayer, meditation and Shachris at sunrise, Mincha as the sun sets. You wake into intention and close into gratitude, with the deep work resting in between.
Why it worksAnchoring the work in the rhythm of the day, and in something older than all of us, gives every opening a frame to settle into. The shift isn't a moment you leave behind, it becomes part of how you move through time.
Barrel sauna and cold plunge between the deeper sessions. Heat opens the body, the cold snaps you awake, and the contrast leaves you clear and settled.
Why it worksThe heat and the cold are a direct conversation with your nervous system, teaching it to meet intensity and recover. The body learns, in minutes, what the inner work is asking of it all weekend, to stay present through the wave and come out the other side.
"This isn't a highlight reel of modalities. It's one journey, built to take you a long way out and bring you back grounded."
You've seen the pieces. This is the order they come in, and the order is the whole point: whatever opens on Monday should still be holding when you pull out of the driveway on Wednesday.
Landing, settling, meeting the men. We open the container with intention, a welcome workshop for the mind, a grounding breath practice for the body. Trust gets built before anything is asked of you.
"Most men don't realize how much they've been holding until they finally put it down."
Workshops for the mind, understanding what you carry and why it's stayed. Breathwork and experiential processing for the body, because insight alone doesn't move what lives in the nervous system. And the fire unburdening ceremony for the soul, the part of the day nobody forgets.
Sauna and cold plunge sit in the gaps between sessions. The body integrates what the mind just learned.
"The breathwork reached something I'd been talking around for years."
The horses come first, before anyone has talked themselves back into their usual shape. Out in the field the dynamic you've been living inside stops being an idea you can argue with.
Then the circle. It isn't limited to family; whatever you walked in carrying is welcome. One story, told once more, seen new, and set down, with the other men there for it. Nothing is excused, nothing is forgotten, no apology is required and no confrontation is needed, because nothing is asked of anyone but you. Sometimes the man you can't forgive is the one in the mirror.
The circle is an opportunity, never an obligation. You step in when you're ready, and no man here gets pushed.
From there the day closes: journaling and integration to turn what shifted into something concrete for your marriage, your family, your avodah, a closing ceremony to seal it, and your post retreat integration call with Lipa already on the calendar.
"Forgiveness isn't something you owe anyone. It's the weight you're finally allowed to stop carrying."
Off the grid doesn't mean off the map. Every part of this property has a name and a purpose, and over three days, you'll move through more of it than you'd expect.
The Dome sits at the center of it all, where the group work, the breathwork, and the ceremony happen. From there, paths lead out to the Grandfather Tree, the Sanctuary, and the Cave, places built for the solo time woven into the arc.
The Star Seed field and the Wishing Tree Spire sit further out, for whenever you need open sky and space to think. Meals happen at the Chalets, Petite and Grand, while the Lodge is home base for some of the excursions we'll do together. The Tea House is set aside for solo reflection, and the Spa holds the sauna and cold plunge. You'll rest in the Sanctuary House and Carriage House, with glamping tents available if you'd like to be closer to the land. All of it matters just as much as anything that happens in the Dome.
All of it is here so you have somewhere to set this down.
The kind of man who senses the room, carries others without being asked, and spends a lot of time inside his own mind trying to make sense of it all.
Most people are wired one way. Either they live in their head, always processing, always making sense of things, or they live in their feelings, closely attuned to what's true. I've been given both. It's a gift, though not a simple one. When you can feel everything and analyze everything at the same time, it takes years to work out what to do with all of it.
For a long stretch I stayed up in my head anyway. I noticed how quickly we retreat into our minds rather than stay with what we're actually experiencing. When I met breathwork during my own training, something moved. It was a personal journey long before it became part of how I work with others, and it taught me, slowly, that you can't think your way out of something you felt your way into. That's why I'm in this with you and not guiding from the outside. I know what it feels like, because I've lived it.
"You can't take someone further than you've gone yourself."
I'm Lipa Honig, LMSW — a psychotherapist by training and a Certified Psychosomatic Breathwork Facilitator, trained in IFS and the deeper work of the body and the parts of us that carry old pain. I've been holding space for men in breathwork groups, in one-on-one work, and in the quiet moments after both. It's an honor every time.
Outside of this work I try to make room for the things that keep me grounded: being in nature, reading, teaching, and creating. Honestly, I wish I had more time for all of it.
My approach is simple. Move with intention, go as far as the man in front of me is ready to go, and meet him with compassion rather than judgment.
Let's be honest... we're all human, and we're all in this together.
There's a team alongside me for all three days. Every one of them has years of training and experience in holding deep emotional work, so wherever you happen to be on the property, someone has an eye on you.
"You've been holding it together long enough. The fact that you're reading this means you're ready. This is your time."
Two guides join Lipa for the deeper work, each carrying a language of their own, one in the room with you, one joining from across the world.
Externalizing what's within through creative expression.
"Some things inside us have never had words. Itamar helps them take shape."
Release, connection, and pure aliveness through a shared beat.
"Twelve men. One rhythm. When words run out, the drums take over."
The breath has been the gateway to the inner world since before words existed. We bring that ancient knowing into a grounded, deliberate framework, so what opens, stays open.
You don't have to think about anything except showing up.
Your own room, cabin, or glamping tent for both nights. Cabin rooms can be shared instead if you'd rather not be on your own.
Kosher, whole foods, nutritious, detox friendly meals daily that nourish body and soul. Food that supports the work your body is doing.
The barrel sauna and the plunge tub are open between sessions and after the evening work.
Forest trails, meadow pathways, mushroom foraging, and quiet spots by the lake. Solo walks, and room to hear yourself think.
Every breathwork session, processing group, workshop, and ceremony, fully included.
A private call with Lipa once you're back home, booked before you leave.
"All of it for one number. Nothing gets added at the door."
Two nights, and either way the bed is yours and it's made before you arrive.
Rooms inside the cabins and chalets: exposed beams, hand-plastered walls, wide windows facing the trees. Bathrooms, showers, and heat are all indoors, a short walk from the Dome and from meals.
Your own room, your own door. For men who know they'll want somewhere quiet at the end of a heavy day.
A room shared with one or two of the other men.
For men who want to be closer to the land. Canvas bell tents, a glass geodesic dome, a hand-built wooden hut, a restored Airstream. Real beds and real bedding, with nothing between you and the woods. Open sky, stars, and the sound of the trees all night.
Tell us what you'd want when you get in touch and we'll walk you through what's open. Spaces are assigned in the order requests come in.
The price below applies to this retreat only.
Payment options available — reach out to discuss.
Sessions, ceremonies, accommodation, meals, sauna, cold plunge, the land, and the follow-up call with Lipa.
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12 men. A group kept small on purpose.
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Finances shouldn't be what's holding you back.
Payment options are available. If that's what makes this possible, reach out to discuss and we'll work it out privately.
Most retreats give you an experience and send you home. What happens next is what separates a powerful few days from a real life change.
You go home with a why and a purpose, and a quieter kind of paradigm shift. Not the fireworks of a single breakthrough, but the steady sense that you're finally on the right path. Because healing was never a destination you arrive at. It's a direction. And once you know you're facing the right way, the walk home stops feeling like something to get through, and starts feeling like the journey it always was.
"The retreat opens the door. Integration is how you walk through it, and stay through it."
A personal 1:1 call with Lipa after you return home. To process what came up, anchor what shifted, and plan what comes next.
The 12 men in the room become a group that keeps going. Nobody hands their number over at checkout and disappears.
Men report their therapy goes deeper in the weeks and months after. It gives you and your therapist new material to work with.
We keep the group intentionally small, never more than 12 men. Every man in the room shapes the container for everyone else. That's why we don't just take whoever signs up first.
"Registering is step one. A comprehensive intake process follows, a real conversation to make sure this is the right room for you, and the right timing."
If it's a yes, you'll know you earned your place in that room, and so did every man sitting next to you. If the timing isn't right, we'll tell you honestly and hold the door open for next time.
The men who end up in this room are the ones who were meant to be there.
Not automatically. This is a small, curated group of 12 men, chosen carefully. The application is followed by a personal intake conversation with Lipa before anything is confirmed. This isn't about filtering people out, it's about making sure every man in that room is the right fit for each other. When it works, it really works. That only happens when the group is right.
It starts simply, you send in a short request expressing your interest. From there, Lipa will reach out to schedule a brief 15 minute call, just to connect and get a feel for where you're at. If it feels like the right fit, for you and for the group, you'll be invited to complete the full application. Once that's in and reviewed, your spot is confirmed. Every step has a person on the other end of it.
Good, you don't need any experience. We build slowly, safely, and with full support, whatever your starting point. Some of the most powerful moments happen for first timers.
Breathwork involves active breathing practices that can bring up strong physical and emotional responses, and it isn't right for everyone. If you have a cardiovascular condition, high blood pressure, epilepsy or a history of seizures, glaucoma or a detached retina, recent surgery, or a significant psychiatric history, please speak with your physician before applying, and mention it on your call with Lipa. Every participant completes a health screening as part of the full application, and signs an informed consent before attending. Your safety is part of the container.
All payments are nonrefundable, and we say that with intention, not coldness. This retreat only works because it's a small, fixed container: twelve men, fully committed, for three days. When you pay, you're not reserving a spot, you're making a promise to yourself and to the eleven men who will stand in the circle with you. That nonrefundable commitment is part of what makes the work real; it's the line you cross that says I'm all in. So please apply only when you're truly ready to be here, knowing the commitment is a full yes.
The retreat is in the Catskills, upstate New York. Getting here is your responsibility, but we'll do our best to help coordinate rides between attendees. If you're interested, let us know after your call and we'll try to connect you with someone coming from a similar area. We can't guarantee it, but we'll try.
The fact that you're asking that question is usually the answer. You don't need to have it figured out before you arrive. You just need to be willing to show up. We'll take it from there, together.
We move slowly and intentionally. Nothing is forced. You are always in control of your own experience. Challenged, yes. Overwhelmed, no.
We ask that you commit to the full experience, the arc matters and each part builds on the last. If there's a genuine emergency we'll handle it with understanding.
Two things, mostly. The first is order: the breathwork, the ceremony, the processing and the integration are sequenced so each one has somewhere to put what the last one opened. The second is what happens once you're home. A weekend that feels enormous and then evaporates is the norm; the follow-up call exists so this one doesn't.
The best thing you can do is check out completely and give yourself the full gift of being unreachable for three days. If you need to stay reachable, there will be times between sessions to take care of work and to be connected, and you can reach out intentionally about anything you're concerned about, enough to check in at home or handle something that can't wait, without pulling yourself out of the work. And honestly? Noticing what it brings up to disconnect is part of the growth.
Everyone gets a one-to-one call with Lipa once they're home, and the date goes in the calendar before you leave the property. Most of what changes for good gets decided in the weeks after, not during.
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Three Days
“Three days is a lot to commit.”
It is. It's a huge commitment. That's exactly why it works.
Giving yourself three uninterrupted days is the biggest gift you can give yourself. You can afford it. You deserve it. And that decision alone, finally choosing yourself, may be the beginning of the healing you came for.